A House Divided

This Saturday, October 21st is the rivalry game between the University of Michigan and Michigan State at 7:30. Everyone has their predictions on the final outcome of the game. Many people think U of M will be the winners due to their 7-0 record and their #2 ranking. However, many people are saying not to count out M State due to their scrappiness and the deep desire to win the rivalry.

This game brings out a lot of competition, between athletes and alumni. And while some healthy competition can be good, it can also be a source of contention when you have family members in the same house on opposing sides. Things can sometimes get quite spirited. If this describes your family, here are a few tips to help keep the competition friendly.

1. Keep the spirit of the competition without being aggressive

There is a way to enjoy the game and be excited for your team without making your other family members feel like they are being harassed. Rooting for your team is great, but directing your enthusiasm at a family member in a taunting way is a surefire way to create tension that can lead to a fight. For this game, it will be best to only celebrate your team’s victories towards the team and avoid directing your joy at your family members.

2. Be a good sport

Good sportsmanship isn’t just for the players. It’s for the fans too! If the other team does a good job on something, acknowledging their accomplishment will go a long way toward lifting up other family members and keeping the peace. Try to not say anything negative about the other family member’s team.

3. Remind yourself that it is just a game

Remember that no matter who wins and who loses, it is just a game. It is not a life-and-death situation. Your livelihood and quality of life are not affected by the outcome. In all honesty, it is not even going to matter come Sunday except for bragging rights. So just relax and remember that it is just for fun.

4. Do a family bonding activity afterward

Even if you follow the advice in items 1-3, it is possible that the family member rooting for the losing team may be a little upset. The best way to combat this is to do a fun family activity afterward that everyone enjoys. I would recommend that this not be a family game night as your nerves may not be able to take it. Since the game is late you may want to choose a fairly quick activity like baking cookies or take a short evening walk. Whatever you choose, just be sure it’s something that will bring out the best in everyone.